A wedding takes on many forms; formal, traditional, fun, exciting, modern, or eclectic. Whatever your style, make sure that your family and guests are always at the foremost of your plans.
I am always dismayed when a bride tells me that she doesn't need a planner to help her at the wedding because her mother will be there to help. Why does the mother have to do it? Your mom has probably dreamed about you getting married almost as much as you have, so why deprive her of your special day? You honestly feel that it is all right to make her work with the caterer, run after lost or missing vendors, argue with the photographer and make sure that the wedding gets started on time? She is supposed to make sure that everyone has the right flowers, make sure you get dressed, make sure that the cake is set up, and everyone is doing what they were asked to do. By the time she takes her seat, she can't wait until the day is over. She is already tired and the celebrating has even started!
But maybe worse yet is the bride and groom that don't think of the comfort and joy of their guests. Your guests have come to see you get married; joining in your wonderful day with you---what are you doing for them? You asked for the bare minimum on the food buffet so that you could save money to travel to the ceremony in a hummer limousine. You skimped on the DJ so that you could buy that new plasma TV you had your eye on.
I always tell my clients to give their guests good food and music, and they will remember your wedding with the fondest of memories. After dinner and the first dance, take each other by the hand and thank each guest for coming to help you celebrate. Let your guests know how appreciative you are that they took time to come and be with you. Show each other off; be in love, celebrate the day and the vows that you just spoke. Involve the energy of your guests and your wedding will shine far above the rest. After all, your friends and family already love you.
Give them a reason to love you even more.
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