I had a large wedding this past weekend in Okoboji. It was a grand affair; very black tie and beautiful. The wedding couple wanted everything to be perfect for their friends and family and really spared no expense to get everything just right.
So why is it that guests check their manners at the front door with the gifts?
It used to be that people dressed up for special occasions and used their best manners, speech and actions. Not so anymore. I see more and more guests and family members seeing a wedding as a free food and drink kind of function instead of the lovely affair that it should be.
Case in point; there was a cocktail hour before dinner with the reception doors closed so that no one could see the beautifully appointed room before dinner. Instead of being giddy with the anticipation, many guests complained about having to wait until the doors opened. Now, there were chairs to sit, tables to accommodate food stuff and plenty to eat and drink, so why the grumbling? We had a montage playing and lots of candlelight to create an elegant and romantic atmosphere. Still, so many people with frowns instead of smiles, complaints instead of gratefulness that they were invited in the first place. Were they in that much of a hurry to get through the evening?
Guests, when you are invited to a wedding, you really have so little to do to take part in the celebration that the couple has planned for you. They are feeding you, giving you drink, music, and atmosphere which they or their family have paid for. Do the wedding couple a favor and put on a party face, thank them for including you, and make merry. Life is too short to keep the sad sack attitude and a wedding is the very wrong place to air a grievance.
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