Toasts; not roasts

I have been neglecting a very important aspect of the wedding reception---the toasts.

Giving a great toast is actually an art form in itself. It is a way to bring an entire audience together to give well-wishes to the wedding couple, bring good cheer to a room, and bless the happy bride and groom. Unfortunately, not a lot of people know how to give a good toast and more often than not, the toast actually turns into a roast; something to be avoided at all costs at a wedding.
Remember that everyone is equal at a wedding; this is not the time to bring our old vendettas, air grievances, or show partiality to family and friends. All guests are to be treated on an even basis, with courtesy and respect. Keep your ill wills for another day; another event---not at your wedding.

Below are some tips to ensure a well-received toast that will have your guests remembering what a great reception you hosted.

1. Be sure you have everyone’s attention. All eyes will be on you, so stand tall
and proud.
2. Start with a smile. It will set the tone for the room.
3. Look your audience in the eye; establish eye contact with the person or persons you are toasting first, and then let your gaze rove around the room, ultimately returning to the individuals you are mentioning in your toast.
4. Speak in a distinctive, clear tone; don’t rush your words.
5. Breathe. Take logical breaks in your speech for emphasis and to help maintain your composure. Avoid fidgeting and fussing.
6. Make sure to keep it semi short and to the point. If you find yourself emotional during your speech, take a moment to compose yourself. No one will think ill of your abilities when your true inner feelings come through.
7. Unless this is a roast, leave the funny sillies to the comic and definitely mind your language! If something that you say does bring a laugh, just enjoy the moment and wait for the noise to die down before you continue.
8. Don’t loose steam before your finish. Be sure you are ready to raise your glass and end your toast on an energetic upswing.
9. Relax and be natural. It’s a toast, not the firing squad!