Some couples get really hot and heavy into the wedding planning. Everything has to be perfect, not one hair out of place, every action choreographed, and people in perfect step. They come to me frustrated, arguing or fighting over the tiniest of details.
My advice? Take a step back---time out---take a breather. Let's look at the overall picture.
Is it really necessary to make sure that the flower girl is the perfect size? Is it really important that the groomsmen equal the number of bridesmaids? How crucial is it for the napkins to be folded perfectly the same for all 800 guests? Sometimes we get caught up in the smallest of details while overlooking the most important of what we are really trying to accomplish.
I have had several emails from my readers telling me their thoughts about this and
that detail of a wedding. Some of you agree that etiquette is important and rules need to be followed. Other readers say skip the wedding and buy a house! And still others are tired of seeing what wedding hype is doing to a very sacred union.
Maybe it would be a good idea for all of us to take a breather from the hype and commercial and put things in perspective: Two people are getting married and plan on spending the rest of their lives together. How they do this is their journey and story to tell to the world. It is up to us, as their community, to support and nurture their decisions. "What has been joined together, let not man put asunder." We can guide and suggest, teach and nurture, but ultimately, the rest is up to them.
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