I am constantly amazed

I have been told that many people read my blog to find out etiquette answers, what vendors may be good and which ones aren't, how to coordinate the wedding day, find out what I am up to, and basically, "How-To" have the best wedding that anyone can. I am flattered, but have to remind people that my blogs are just my thoughts and ideas, they don't necessarily represent the entire world's view (I can only dream so!). I do, however, feel an incredible responsibility to be as honest and as accurate as possible because I feel that there is enough dishonesty out there in the wedding industry.

I know that when I read other wedding blogs, I like hearing about the industry from other's perspectives, their highs and lows, what works for them--what doesn't, and how "they master wedding events all over the world. So when I tell you that I ran across a vendor who tells me that wedding etiquette is different in small town Iowa from "how you do it in the larger cities" and "We go down the phone book to invite people to weddings here," I take offense, because not only was I and my clients insulted, but so was every other wedding professional out there.

I am not sure how people do it in the "big cities" seeing as how I am from Iowa and for the most part, we are one big community. Was that a slam on my ivory coat that I wore to the meeting? And the phone book invitation list---gosh, that is a new one on me. A desperate vendor trying to feed more guests means a bigger food and bar bill at the end of the night for the wedding couple? Gouging the newly married is hardly the way to "win friends and influence people." I would think that a vendor would want to help in any way that they could to ensure that the newlyweds had a great event. After all, happy people tell their friends why they are so happy!

I have said it before and I will say it again---it takes a village to create a wedding and apparently this vendor takes that saying to a whole new level!